Here we are now…

Such a lovely place, tiny alleys with stone houses in different colors though most are white. We have landed both physical and emotional.

We have wandered the streets of Vilaflor upwards and downwards a countless of times already in five days. It’s a village with all you could want for a vacation.

If you are interested in living here then you need to get used to no credit cards, no stress and dogs running around the streets like cats do in sweden.

When you are a swede like we are it’s a bit hard to get used to the standards and the way it’s done down here, but we are willing to learn and approach things with as open minds as we can.

Things started out a bit different than we planned, a flue hit Daniel on Tuesday and as I write this i feel it in my throat.

Today we took the bus to Los Cristianos to get some things needed for me to be able to work. And the most important thing, I got to swim in the ocean. Me and Pelle bathed but Daniel isn’t that keen of a dip as we are.

We were supposed to get down to cristianos early morning but when we had waited for the bus in thirty minutes we gave up and went back to the apartment, later I found out our phones switched back from Canary time zone to Sweden’s… It’s one hour ahead, so instead of waiting for the bus at six thirty we where waiting at it at five thirty.

I think the universe try to tell me to losen up a little bit, control is just an illusion, I know! Promise myself a bit more relaxation, deeper breathing, and laughter. Less stress, tension and worry and I’ll be just fine.

Tomorrow we’ll explore more of these beautiful surroundings.

Take care!

Marica

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Self destruction and healing

Did you know that 95% of the decisions we take on a daily basis are ruled by the unconscious mind, aka the part of the mind that holds all the beliefs, safety thinking and habits?

This means that only 5% of the decisions are made out of curiosity, openness and new thinking.

I think this is scary, because it makes all of us kind of close minded. Don’t you think?

I am into self destruction right now, I don’t exercise, I overeat and I start to think of all the “wrong” decisions that’s got me at this point.

If I resonate with my subconscious mind and look at all the fears I recognize old patterns, when things get tough in my life or I get into the fields of the unknown and uncertainties I punish myself by eating too much and things that makes me ill in the long run, and I stop practicing yoga wich is helping me stay sharp and balanced.

I escape from my own feelings and by letting the safety systems kick in I find myself inside the comfort zone again..

Why this time?

We are stuck in the marina for the past 1,5 months due to a engine change and the following unlikely issues with that. This has caused us to lift the boat and take the propeller down.

Living on a boat in the water is a piece of cake contrary on land, especially with a toddler. So we have been trusted with some great family members who have offered us sleeping places. I am overwhelmed and so happy and thankful for the generosity of these people.

It’s hard to live like this, especially when we had the plan for this summer to be independent and sail around in Vänern to look around here before we leave for opeb waters.

So what is different this time from the past? I have a more open mind, I see the patterns and the old habits. I may not deal with it yet but I see it and I will be working on it from now on. This will make me use lesser of my subconscious mind and more of my conscious mind, I think.

Here’s a link to a great article about the topic.

I am convinced that I will work on this and become more and more aware of my own issues and obstacles that i put in my way. From now on I will deal with the uncomfortable feelings and negative thoughts.

Hope you enjoyed, and I promise to be back soon to post something new. And remember…

You become what you think of the most

Marica

Contribution and YouTube 

How can I contribute to the world I live in today? What is my purpose?
I’ve asked myself these questions more often than I can count nowadays.

I’ve decided to start my own YouTube v-log channel so if you want to follow click here to watch my premiere video.

Be nice and if you like the video push like and subscribe, I will definitely turn the camera around for the next one and maybe I have the courage to take my glasses off ☺️

I hope  you enjoying a good weekend.

Marica

Ignorance… Is bliss

Sometimes when I meet ignorant people I just can’t seem to find the strength I need to prevent them to get under my skin.. It’s like a disease multiples inside and I just want to escape this earth. Instead of standing tall and questioning their ignorance towards people that aren’t like minded. 

The most awkward thing is that I start to question myself and my beliefs or actions and if my path is the right one or if I should just surrender to the “normal” world order.i get to convince myself that no one else needs to understand or approve my life, but respect it and leave it. 

I see no bad thing in questioning things from time to time and reconsider or reevaluate the situation one are in, it’s a must do if one live a life in truth to oneself, but the bitter taste isn’t left behind in such situation. 

Ignorance and certainty of a subject with no understanding for others point of view is a cancer in this world today, and the one who is querying this is derided and/or ridiculed by the masses and the invoke of  “science and proven experience” as they say in this particular authority. 

Once again there is nothing good in the way to beautify being unique in this western society. Today I wonder how on earth am I going to look my son in the eyes and urge him to be unique and to stand for what he believe is right in his heart when I know how he will be treated? If nothing happens soon that turn this world around and makes it a place where love and understanding for the fact that everyone has their own path and life purpose to be outlived instead of discourage people with different ideas to stay inside the lines. Then this downward spiral is going to increase at the speed of an avalanche with hatred and fear. 

All the invisible lines that is unspoken but so clear once it’s overstepped. Or all the voluntary participations we have in this society, that infact weren’t voluntary when you skipped one… Or didn’t do it the right way. 

I’m pissed and I’m tired of being forced inside boundaries and limitations that makes me feel untrue to me and my loved ones. I will not stop questioning people and their ignorance towards new or alternative facts. I will continue living my life in trust to my heart and soul. 

I will raise my son to think for himself and to stay true to hos heart. But I will teach him that the quote: “Ignorance is bliss” are likewise to “Lack of knowledge results in happiness; it is more comfortable not to know certain things” 

I know that most people act out of their own reality and altered degrees of knowledge, that is ok! This particular situation is about an encounter with as it’s called educated people with position of power, which is scary to think of. 

Happy weekend! 

❤️

Marica 

Bye April, hello May

When I write this it is the 30th of April and we are about to enter the month of May. This day marks the end of winter and the start of spring time in Sweden. We light fires to burn the old and to make space for the new. I think it’s a good way to mark the new beginning in the circle of life. 

In exactly a month from now we will be living on our boat, sailing lake Vänern and enjoying a life of freedom, free from ordinary things like rent and electricity bills. We do have our plan, but who knows where this adventure might end up? 

As we are getting closer to this move, to my own surprise I feel calmer and calmer. It is like all the things that I have been through up to this point has been preparing me for this. 

I think this is my way to ultimately listen to my inner voice, for all my life I have been pushing it aside and rediculed it as nonsense and wished for myself to be “normal”. But f**k it, I am who I am and this is my life. 

I might just be nice to me, find the self love for myself and just go my own way. It happens to be so frankly, the haters are going to hate even if I live a “normal” life so I might as well give them something to really hate. I love the lovers, the people who are happy and sharing that don’t se others success as a threat to their own happiness. 

The thing is, we all have the birth right to be happy, to have love and prosperity. The thing stopping us is… Ourselves! We are standing in our own way by accepting beliefs that aren’t even our own, implemented by others in our early childhood by parents and grown-ups who are impacted by their parents, etcetera. 

We have the choice to believe in them or to start questioning them, most of us for example think that we are not worthy of this or that.. We are! Have you ever seen a wild animal questioning their ability to survive? Humans think that we have to do this or that to be worthy of this or that. 

Yes, as we live today. We need to have an income to afford to consume all the luxury we created. But if we look up from our busy lives and see all the people living alternative lives, they do survive in Alaska or in the jungle in an isolated island in the South Pacific Ocean without or with small amounts of money. 

I read a line in a book some time ago, I don’t remember which book or the writer but it said: “in this life we only get as much as we are willing to let go of” 

My interpretation of this is to be willing to offer the short term benefits for the long term benefits, and if I’m not at peace with my current situation, I see the possibility that changes I make may get me to a place or situation I can find peace in. 

Let’s make this May 2017 the year and month that you spend some quality time with you, appreciate you and be your own best friend. Because if you don’t want to spend time with you, why should anyone else do? You are worthy, you are enough and you have all that you ever wanted within your reach if you only move out of your own way, by this I mean love you and allow you to have your dreams come true. 

XOXO 

Marica 

“Dreamy Idealist”

If you’re in some way are interested in psychology, you’ve probably heard of the theory of introverts and extroverts. I’ve thought about this lately and which of those two I am so I decided to look into it a bit more and to take a test.

I did read a book about this a few years ago and I remember I found it hard to define myself to either one, for example:

“The introverted seen as extremely inward person. Is the disposition often silent
and aloof. Not impulsive in their actions and prefer an orderly and predictable
life. In school, they often do better than the extrovert and the possible defection from
the studies often depend on the psyche more than the studies themselves. They are
pain-sensitive and does not tolerate stress well, it lowers rather than heightens their
performance. They are not very impressionable, but know what they want. Prefer an intellectual humor in front of a more brazen move. Is usually less sexually active than the extrovert.” 

Source:                                                       http://psykologi.ifokus.se/articles/4d7158cfb9cb46221d06903d-introvert-extrovert-vet-du-din-personlighetstyp

In this description I can say yes when it comes to the inward bit, I do prefer a night home instead of a night out, I don’t answer well to stress but I do need a deadline to make something happen and I do know what I want. The other things isn’t that clear. And then we have the description o an extrovert:

“The extrovert is a typical social person who likes to socialize, has many friends and is happy at parties. They are impulsive, impressionable and not afraid of the unplanned, they have an ability to take things as they come. For the extroverted raises the excitement their performance as they like challenges. In cases where they drop off an education often depend on the study itself and nothing else. Their humor is often more brazen and black. They are often more sexually active than most people who are introverts.”

Source:
http://psykologi.ifokus.se/articles/4d7158cfb9cb46221d06903d-introvert-extrovert-vet-du-din-personlighetstyp

I do love to hit the party once in a while and do often find myself in the middle of the dance floor, I’m impressionable and often do things spontaneously and when it comes to humor it’s definitely black. When it comes to sex I simply say, no comment. 🙂

This is the result of my test, I just googled and picked one out of the blue it surely exists many more like this out there. Enjoy, and i posted a link to this test is down below.

 “Dreamy Idealist”

Quiet, reflective and idealistic. Interested in serving humanity. Well-developed value system, which they strive to live in accordance with. Extremely loyal. Adaptable and laid-back unless a strongly-held value is threatened. Usually talented writers. Mentally quick and able to see possibilities. Interested in understanding and helping people.

Careers that could fit you include:

Writers, artists, counselors, social workers, English teachers, fine arts teachers, child care workers, clergy, missionaries, psychologists, psychiatrists, scientists, political activists, editors, education consultants, journalists, religious educators, social scientists

Famous people with similar personality:

  • Albert Schweitzer, theologian, musician and physicist
  • George Orwell, author and journalist
  • J.R.R. Tolkien, writer
  • James Taylor, singer-songwriter and guitarist
  • John F. Kennedy Jr., a lawyer, journalist and publisher
  • Lisa Kudrow, actress
  • Virgin Mary, mother of Jesus (Biblical)
  • Peter Jackson, filmmaker
  • Diana Frances Spencer, Princess of Wales
  • William Shakespeare, English poet and playwright

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Here’s the result, could work a bit on my thinking-feeling parameter but in some way it is what makes me being me, and the judge-perceiving parameter’s all so something to think about, I think I could use a little judgement sometimes to spare me some expensive lessons. Over all I think this was a good test and if you wish to have your own test here’s the link to the same test I took.

What do you think about dividing people into boxes? Is it right,wrong or even necessary in today’s society? Please comment below, in my facebook page or in my group .

Have a great week! 

XoX

Marica

The softer it is, the harder it gets

A question: If you were in search for a specific product to buy and you had three companies providing you the same product, which one would you choose to buy from? And what would be the crucial thing that lead you to this decision?

I came to think of the values we think matters in our decisions, whether it’s the job we apply for or the jeans we buy. I’m experiencing that today it’s the “hard values” that matters all over in our society for example in our hospitals, jobs and even the schools. By hard values I mean things like money, productivity and material gains.

In the healthcare it gets harder and harder to get a response from a doctor unless you’re in a physical ill condition that can’t be fixed with a surgery or a pill, as an employee in a company today you have non or little value unless you work at the top of your ability at as little cost as possible and in the school system there is a lack of resources needed to take care of individuals that does not “abide in the ranks” so to speak.

What happened to the soft values, the empathy, the praising and the friendliness of each other? I so wish for those things to shine trough in our lives. I wish to have a doctor who looks me in the eyes and asks how’s it going when I visiting him/her with an invisible disorder. I wish to have a job in a company that really cares about their employees and looks after them even when they’re having a hard time reaching the sales budget for this month. I wish to have a school where it’s ok to be different as an individual without the condemnation and the conditioning to fit in.

I know my answer on the questions above, I would buy from the person who’s giving me a good gut feeling and shows me friendliness and interest in my persona.

I have mistreating my inner voice and I have ignored it several times over the years, but now I’ve learned the hard way not to go for shiny objects without looking in to things first. I haven’t always done the right thing for myself in order to fit in, but now I choose to take the path that’s mine to take.

All that shines isn’t gold.

“Do what is right, not what is easy”

Take care of yourselves and each other

XoX

Marica

10 things to be outstanding

In order to become the persons we want to be we need to understand that we must do something today that is different from yesterday. It’s hard but it’s as simple as it is, before you can walk you need to learn how to crawl.

I have implemented some “rules” in my life to overcome my imprinted patterns and habits and I´d like to share those with you guys. We need to want the change as much as we need to breathe to be outstanding, and we need to be willing to let go of things, “in this life you only get as much as you are willing to let go of” as Osho writes. I do notice many changes in my own life as an entrepreneur, it’s baby steps but in someways it feels like quantum leaps. Things starts to turn over night and I feel like a new person in many ways.

So here’s the 10 things to become outstanding 🙂

  1. Express yourself. Be who you are and don’t apologize for yourself, life doesn’t go on repeat and it’s no time to live someone else’s life. Be unique and do your thing, haters will always hate but the one’s who loves you gonna love you anyway.
  2. Self love. Not in an egocentric way, but in a healthy way. You know, you’re gonna live with yourself for the rest of the time on this planet.. It’s not going to be a pleasant journey if you can’t stand yourself. Be humble and forgiving and tap your own back if no one else’s around.
  3. Change routines. Instead of reacting on situations, try to stop and ask yourself “is this helping me” or “does this matter in a period of 5-10 years”? If not, let it pass.
  4.  Be the master of the mind. Instead of letting feelings and thoughts decide whether it’s a good or bad thing you’re going through, be objective. In many situations we do seem to have our lives on autopilot, instead be aware and be awake. Honestly, how many times have you missed an opportunity just because you were close minded? I sure have lost the counting of mine. The thing is, life isn’t black or white it’s a broad spectra in between, so be alert.
  5. Spread the LOVE. It’s easy to go all in to something we’re passionate about and in all the creativity lose track on what’s most important in life, family. Money can buy us happiness in some ways but not family, I talked to a girl the other day about how’s it been growing up in a family with two parents working in the self employee sector and they were never present. She’s now in her own business and swore to never spend that much time at work, to stake the family. And don´t forget to praise the people around you, see something good, tell it.
  6. Be patient. Let it take time, have trust in the moment. we’re exactly where we’re ment to be. If we rush forward without right tools there’s most likely certain to fail. At the same time we need to be persistent and determined to become outstanding and successful, and don’t stop the drilling before we’ve reached the gold.
  7. Master your fears. I know I’ve written about this in another post (here). But it can’t be said enough times, kill the comfort zone. All our fears and implemented believes are only weighing us down and keeps us clinging to the past. I use to locate the fear in my body, where it is and if it’s physical, then I think of this bright, strong and white light burning the feeling of fear away. The power of thought is amazing, cause it works at 99% of the time, though I might need to redo it the next time I get in a similar situation. Be creative and see how it works for you.
  8. Forgiveness. Forgive and forget, we don’t need to walk around on this planet and think of how other people done us wrong in the past. In this way we miss out on things in the present moment. I have added this to my Book of Miracles as it’s so important to let go of things in order to start each day anew.
  9. Be passionate and keep on learning. To be passionate about what we’re doing and have our why held high in our heart is important, because the minute the passion and the why fades that’s when we loose track in our businesses. To do what we love, read books/articles/blogs, see movies and learn more about what interests us is one of the most important tings to keep the geist alive.
  10. I’m responsible. It’s easy to fall into a pattern of self pity and to blame someone else for our own mistakes. We need to wake up and realize that we and not they are the one’s who’s gonna make a change in this world, society, business and in this life. If I don’t show up at work on Monday morning or the rest of the days I can’t blame anyone else for not being paid.

And do remember failure and mistakes are blessings in disguise.

Wish you a fabulous week!

XoX

Marica