Bye April, hello May

When I write this it is the 30th of April and we are about to enter the month of May. This day marks the end of winter and the start of spring time in Sweden. We light fires to burn the old and to make space for the new. I think it’s a good way to mark the new beginning in the circle of life. 

In exactly a month from now we will be living on our boat, sailing lake Vänern and enjoying a life of freedom, free from ordinary things like rent and electricity bills. We do have our plan, but who knows where this adventure might end up? 

As we are getting closer to this move, to my own surprise I feel calmer and calmer. It is like all the things that I have been through up to this point has been preparing me for this. 

I think this is my way to ultimately listen to my inner voice, for all my life I have been pushing it aside and rediculed it as nonsense and wished for myself to be “normal”. But f**k it, I am who I am and this is my life. 

I might just be nice to me, find the self love for myself and just go my own way. It happens to be so frankly, the haters are going to hate even if I live a “normal” life so I might as well give them something to really hate. I love the lovers, the people who are happy and sharing that don’t se others success as a threat to their own happiness. 

The thing is, we all have the birth right to be happy, to have love and prosperity. The thing stopping us is… Ourselves! We are standing in our own way by accepting beliefs that aren’t even our own, implemented by others in our early childhood by parents and grown-ups who are impacted by their parents, etcetera. 

We have the choice to believe in them or to start questioning them, most of us for example think that we are not worthy of this or that.. We are! Have you ever seen a wild animal questioning their ability to survive? Humans think that we have to do this or that to be worthy of this or that. 

Yes, as we live today. We need to have an income to afford to consume all the luxury we created. But if we look up from our busy lives and see all the people living alternative lives, they do survive in Alaska or in the jungle in an isolated island in the South Pacific Ocean without or with small amounts of money. 

I read a line in a book some time ago, I don’t remember which book or the writer but it said: “in this life we only get as much as we are willing to let go of” 

My interpretation of this is to be willing to offer the short term benefits for the long term benefits, and if I’m not at peace with my current situation, I see the possibility that changes I make may get me to a place or situation I can find peace in. 

Let’s make this May 2017 the year and month that you spend some quality time with you, appreciate you and be your own best friend. Because if you don’t want to spend time with you, why should anyone else do? You are worthy, you are enough and you have all that you ever wanted within your reach if you only move out of your own way, by this I mean love you and allow you to have your dreams come true. 

XOXO 

Marica 

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The softer it is, the harder it gets

A question: If you were in search for a specific product to buy and you had three companies providing you the same product, which one would you choose to buy from? And what would be the crucial thing that lead you to this decision?

I came to think of the values we think matters in our decisions, whether it’s the job we apply for or the jeans we buy. I’m experiencing that today it’s the “hard values” that matters all over in our society for example in our hospitals, jobs and even the schools. By hard values I mean things like money, productivity and material gains.

In the healthcare it gets harder and harder to get a response from a doctor unless you’re in a physical ill condition that can’t be fixed with a surgery or a pill, as an employee in a company today you have non or little value unless you work at the top of your ability at as little cost as possible and in the school system there is a lack of resources needed to take care of individuals that does not “abide in the ranks” so to speak.

What happened to the soft values, the empathy, the praising and the friendliness of each other? I so wish for those things to shine trough in our lives. I wish to have a doctor who looks me in the eyes and asks how’s it going when I visiting him/her with an invisible disorder. I wish to have a job in a company that really cares about their employees and looks after them even when they’re having a hard time reaching the sales budget for this month. I wish to have a school where it’s ok to be different as an individual without the condemnation and the conditioning to fit in.

I know my answer on the questions above, I would buy from the person who’s giving me a good gut feeling and shows me friendliness and interest in my persona.

I have mistreating my inner voice and I have ignored it several times over the years, but now I’ve learned the hard way not to go for shiny objects without looking in to things first. I haven’t always done the right thing for myself in order to fit in, but now I choose to take the path that’s mine to take.

All that shines isn’t gold.

“Do what is right, not what is easy”

Take care of yourselves and each other

XoX

Marica