Bye April, hello May

When I write this it is the 30th of April and we are about to enter the month of May. This day marks the end of winter and the start of spring time in Sweden. We light fires to burn the old and to make space for the new. I think it’s a good way to mark the new beginning in the circle of life. 

In exactly a month from now we will be living on our boat, sailing lake Vänern and enjoying a life of freedom, free from ordinary things like rent and electricity bills. We do have our plan, but who knows where this adventure might end up? 

As we are getting closer to this move, to my own surprise I feel calmer and calmer. It is like all the things that I have been through up to this point has been preparing me for this. 

I think this is my way to ultimately listen to my inner voice, for all my life I have been pushing it aside and rediculed it as nonsense and wished for myself to be “normal”. But f**k it, I am who I am and this is my life. 

I might just be nice to me, find the self love for myself and just go my own way. It happens to be so frankly, the haters are going to hate even if I live a “normal” life so I might as well give them something to really hate. I love the lovers, the people who are happy and sharing that don’t se others success as a threat to their own happiness. 

The thing is, we all have the birth right to be happy, to have love and prosperity. The thing stopping us is… Ourselves! We are standing in our own way by accepting beliefs that aren’t even our own, implemented by others in our early childhood by parents and grown-ups who are impacted by their parents, etcetera. 

We have the choice to believe in them or to start questioning them, most of us for example think that we are not worthy of this or that.. We are! Have you ever seen a wild animal questioning their ability to survive? Humans think that we have to do this or that to be worthy of this or that. 

Yes, as we live today. We need to have an income to afford to consume all the luxury we created. But if we look up from our busy lives and see all the people living alternative lives, they do survive in Alaska or in the jungle in an isolated island in the South Pacific Ocean without or with small amounts of money. 

I read a line in a book some time ago, I don’t remember which book or the writer but it said: “in this life we only get as much as we are willing to let go of” 

My interpretation of this is to be willing to offer the short term benefits for the long term benefits, and if I’m not at peace with my current situation, I see the possibility that changes I make may get me to a place or situation I can find peace in. 

Let’s make this May 2017 the year and month that you spend some quality time with you, appreciate you and be your own best friend. Because if you don’t want to spend time with you, why should anyone else do? You are worthy, you are enough and you have all that you ever wanted within your reach if you only move out of your own way, by this I mean love you and allow you to have your dreams come true. 

XOXO 

Marica 

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The answer is love 

Sun’s shining brighter than for many days, makes you wanna sit against a wall with the nose turned towards the sky. But nope… We are going for a roadtrip today, we are fortuned to afford to buy us a dinghy for our adventures at sea, yay! 

As I enjoy the ride south in our beautiful and spring green country I reflect on how much the attitude towards life matters. 

Ten months ago I didn’t have the knowledge I have today, I had read a lot of self help books showing how to implement these or those complex rules or techniques into your life and you will “live happily ever after”. 

It left me frustrated, and with a feeling  like I was missing something or that this was not the whole truth, my intuition told me that it has to be a much simpler way to be happy and feel more joy in life. 

I ran over a training program focusing on affiliate marketing, little did I know this was going to change my life and attitude towards everyone and everything. 

Love, the answer is love. This is written in all the religious texts weather its the Bible or the Torah. I believe we have been mislead by a few leaders who have big egos and a lot of fear. Leading the whole world in to believing that it has to be complex and hard to be happy. And I can see how the industry don’t want people to love themselves or others, if they did so the consumption of anti aging products and luxury products worldwide would decrease insanely. 

It’s as easy as this, in fact that is the reason it’s so hard. Because our mind is thought to think complicated thoughts. And our communities are teaching us to live our lives with certain standards, and those who are not, is treated as outcast. Simply because they threaten the stability of the norm in the society. 

So live a life with love, start to love and approve yourself then the rest will follow. I will keep on learning and exploring more about love in my life. As I do so I will shre my experiences with you. 

I have thought about sharing my way to apply this to everyday life in a future post so if you liked this one, please follow and share. 

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Now we’re on our way home, a second-hand dinghy and some new clothes in the baggage. I feel gratitude for a good day spent on the Swedish west coast, salty winds and happy people in the sun. 

Blessings from route E45 in Sweden! 

Marica  

Characteristic theme of life

Ten years from now I will look back at my life and make a part time summation, I wish my future self to be at ease, filled with joy and pride when doing so. 

I wish myself that kind of feeling like when you want to tap yourself at the back and say “good job, I’m proud of you!” or “way to go girl! Now, let’s keep on rolling 42 more”

I sat with my feet soaked in my son’s bathtub, getting some nice soft skin after the winter with lots of coconut oil. I started to sum up the past ten years, then I was in my early 20’s and had just ended a four year long relationship and had moved back home with my parents for a short time. I was Working part-time as a cleaner and didn’t know what to do with my life. 

Even though I didn’t have a clue about the future I can remember the faith I had even then, not that strong and with the same deep centered feeling I experience today but it was there. I knew I was going to be all right, but how? 

If I got to meet that girl today I would tell her… 

You will soon meet that special someone, who will make you feel complete as well as you want to rip his head of in fury… You will live on a farm with horses, cats and chickens for a while and meet friends for life during this time, you will meet people that will teach you lessons that will strengthen you for further more challenging situations, like a crazy landlord hiding in the darkness of the stable… 

You will live in the city, and realize it’s not your “cup of tea” after almost ruined the relationship with the chosen one… Attending a class in cheese-making 600 kilometers away from home, making friends that will give the reinkarnation theory a whole new meaning. When you get back home you will proceed with starting your own handcrafted cheese production business as the only one from the class, all this and at the same time moving in to a caravan…

You will fail in this business after some struggling years, after letting some abusive people be trusted in to your life, only to feel the gratitude of lessons learned. Expensive experiences but yet so very improving, selfworth is a hard thing to get for some people, almost every person I think. 

 To your own and some old friends surprise, you will be engaged and have a small wedding in the back yard of your brother’s house, barefoot with rose hip flowers in your hair. And you will be a mum, to the most beautiful and unique little boy. You will have so much love in your life, people will come and go but they all will contribute with some special moments, meaning or/and lessons to your life. 

I am so greatful and happy to be alive and to have lived the life I have, and I want to thank everyone of you who’s been a part of it. Even the smallest tiniest bit, thank you! 

I know that I haven’t lived a life of mediocrity up til now and I will not start to do it from now either, I trust in the universe and I have faith in the inner voice that’s guided me up to this point, to guide me further on. I’m ready to start out on this adventure with my family and I approve of myself to have all my needs provided and fulfilled. 

Today is a good day, my feet are smooth and I have my loving family with me. 

Thank you for reading this and have a lovely week! 

Marica 

Farewells and hard work 

Wednesday, all ready?! 

Feels like it just speed up for each day, for me it seems like yesterday it was Friday. Funerals are never something to look forward to, and nevertheless I didn’t want to miss this one. 

The weather was so good, warm and sunny with birds singing in every three, the Bob Marley’s “three little birds” was a good way to start the ceremony. I am so thankful that I got the chance to bid the final farewell to my loved friend Tina, it was so beautiful and the tears fell from my eyes right from the start. 

This woman was so loved, there was so many people in the chappell and the cortege with cars towards the cemetery seemed endless. I am so happy and thankful for having her as a friend and I have learned so much from her, she was always good to everyone, if she had as little as a penny left when buying food to survive the day she’d share it with the beggars outside the store. And she always had the time to listen if someone needed to talk, and she never spoke a bad word about anyone and lived her life in gratitude, I know she wasn’t that good at putting her own needs first, which is sad. 

I ought to you Tina, that we are now doing these changes in our lives, the loss of you in that early age reminded us that we are mortals and each minute of every day is precious. Thank you for the time we had together and rest in peace til we meet again. ❤️

The errors of this week has been time, too little of it or too much to fill it with. We have been working hard to get some major things done in our boat, only a couple of weeks left now until we relaunches her in the water. This has brought us off routine with both our eating and sleeping habits, if we ever had any. We try to keep it good for our little one but for ourselves it’s hard. 

To work towards the goals we have makes us forget which time and day it is, we are that dedicated. And it feels good to be doing this. 

Wish you all a Happy Easter! 

Marica 

“Sometimes you have to get knocked down lower than you have ever been, to stand up taller than you ever were”

Googled the phrase: “relationship changed with parents when having own children”. Found out that it is a quite ordinary thing that could happen.

I feel comfused and disappointed by the way it happened so suddenly without any warning and over a silly thing, I do know that I play a part in this, and for that I do not put any blame on you. 

I know that the way we plan and live our lives me and my husband is not the usual way to live, but it has been done before by others with and without kids. And I know it may sound like I don’t appreciate the way I was brought up when I talk about our decisions and ways of raising Pelle, but I know you did the best you could with what you had to work with and I am thankful, because it has made me the person I am today. And I do love being me.  

I wish that we could talk about emotions and ask questions when we do not understand each other and I wish that we could respect the fact that we are individuals with different aspects and point of views instead of assuming and blaming one another for “being this or doing that”. 

I look at the fact that I am falling back in the same patterns as I use to act when it comes to a conflict with you, something I’m not proud of but aware of. I tend to yell and almost stamp my feet in the ground and get so frustrated that I end the call abruptley without any warning. I find this very sad and I will do better from now on. 

I don’t know how I’m supposed to be handling this, I have been feeling a lot of guilt and shame for the way I have acted in the past when we had an argue or an issue, I’ve had the feeling that I wasn’t allowed to be angry or to raise my voice. We were not good at handling conflicts, and aren’t still. I have now learned to stand up, and to be honest with how I feel and I do allow myself to be angry and to speak up. 

Now that I feel I do have the right to stand up for me and to live life the way I want to, I believe I’m doing the right thing and are making the right choices for us. I will give my child a life of freedom, fresh air and adventure. No he won’t get to have a lot of things, because it won’t fit in the small space of a boat.  But if you are interested in being a part of his and our lives you are welcome to visit us and hopefully we can still visit you and other people we know who lives in a house or an apartment, and P can do all the things like riding a bike or climbing a tree when we’re not sailing. 

I know that all of this is a way to tell me that you are worried and that you care, but it hurts like h*ll when you told me that you couldn’t see P anymore because we will move aboard. And I still can’t see the problem with that, since we spent almost all the time of the last season in the boat. I respect that you feel that way, but I don’t agree.

I hope this isn’t happening to everyone as a new parent, it really knocks you down when you, like me, always have felt like I was having an over all good relationship with my parents. I’m sure this will solve and we will get through this stronger and more loving. 

I realize I am a grown-up now and I will handle this with awareness and love. 

Tomorrow I will make that call… 

Good night/morning, have a lovely week! 

Marica 

Follow the signs be brave and trust life 

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A song about tearing down windmills and Don Quijote in the playlist on the computer and a week later I was strolling in one of the parks in the neighboring city, never have I noticed the two windmills standing there. One for the child’s play and the other like a monument from the past. 

It gave me goose bums, either my awareness of these little signs are higher than before (possible) or I attract more signs from the universe for me to be shown that I am exactly at the right place right here right now? I believe both to be true.

Anyway, we made up our minds and decided to cancel our rental agreement on the apartment, as I mentioned in the last post. WE DID IT, so from the end of May we will live on the boat. Feels amazing, totally frightening and like we are throwing ourselves out there for life to take us wherever we beed to be next.

So goodbye comfort and hello compact living, it is going to be a challenge but what doesn’t kill you makes you stonger. We will be just fine and we will learn so much from this. And the signs tells me we are doing the right thing, all small hints are pointing us in this direction.

So we are in a bot of a hurry to get all things together with the move, right now our boat is covered on land but we will start to work to get her ready for the season. And we have a home to be minimized and to sell, give away and throw all the stuff we don’t need.

This is where I put myself to the test of letting go, it is hard with some things and so easily done with others, I let it feel awkward and I look at the feeling and ask “is this important, and for what reason do gI hold on to this particular thing?” often it turns out to be for sentimental or conditioning reasons, not so often because I really want to keep it. And if I really want to keep it then it stays.

I have been wondering about my entrepreneurship lately and I am curious to become a content provider, (for those who wonder what that is this sums it up good below)I think it would suit me good, besides from blogging and affiliate marketing business I could help people write content on their blogs, social media and even translate texts. I will definitely look into it and learn more. Please, if you have any ideas where to learn more let me know in the comments or send me an email or message on Facebook.

Content Provider – Firm which supplies text and graphics of articles on interviews, new developments, news stories, etc., that can be employed to make a publication or site more attractive and useful to its readers or visitors. – www.businessdictionary.com 

 Today we have had 64.4 degrees fahrenheit /18 degrees celcius, not a single cloud in the sky and the winds where not freezing for the first time this year. Spring have finally come to the northern hemisphere, and it is most welcome!

Hope you all will have a wonderful, prosperous and sunny week!

Love to you all!

Marica


Sad news, letting go and heal yourself… 

 The mind told me not to write a post this evening but the heart knows it makes me feel good to share my thoughts. So I sit here in the sofa with my cup of cinnamon tea and just let the fingers write about any subjects eager to get out in text, as usual.

Today I’m in to self pity, I woke up with a sore throat and a headache which has been my companions for all day now.

It’s been a shaky week since I last posted, with a lot of feelings and emotions going up and down. I got the message that a dear friend of mine suddenly passed away, which caused me to think of what I am doing with my own life, it is a precious thing.

The trip this weekend back to the places where I spent much time in my childhood and have called home for many years made me realize that both places and people changes, and in my innocence this have never crossed my mind. I mean these places could never stop being “home”. Not for a single moment I believed this could happen, but as I walked the streets it struck me as a bullet. This place mean nothing to me anymore, it has nothing but memories of the past to offer.

This place were important to me in the past and the memories will always be in close reach. I think what I’m trying to explain is that I have changed way more than I even knew myself for the last year.

This is a new thing to me, I have kept the belief that some people and places never change, and if everything in the world goes wrong then this is the place for me to hide and seek comfort. It was a bit of a chock when the falsehood of this belief tumbled down and hit me in the head. It’s a good thing though, it’s time to let the past go and to live with less baggage, to travel light.

The lesson to be learned I think, is to never take people for granted and know when to let go of both people and places.

Of course I keep some of these people from the past that I now bid farewell, in my life and give them new roles to play and to have smaller or bigger parts of my heart to keep. And if there is people who still want to be a part of my life it’s partly up to them. I have found the key to self respect and self love and I will keep to my mission, always to do what gives me and my family the most joy out of life and I wish to have that kind of energy in my friendships and relationships with relatives as well.

Life is to short to be lived with second thoughts, or in relations that don’t bring happiness and joy. The tears are only an extension of the laughter and vice versa. Sadly one of my favorite human beings with that kind of energy that could light up a room, were in a hurry to get out of here too early. I will always love you my friend and your place in my heart isn’t vacant.

I would like to recommend a book, a “must read” if you think life is a lesson to be learned. I got this from a new  friend that I met on the internet, that has come to mean a lot to me. Thank you Laura, I’m sure angels comes in many shapes.

I’ve only read till chapter four and I have smiled through tears already, it’s amazing and gives you some insights about the most important person in your life, you. Read it, and if you can’t get a copy of it get back to me and I’ll help you.

The gateways to wisdom and knowledge are always open

-Louise L Hay

Marica 

10 things to be outstanding

In order to become the persons we want to be we need to understand that we must do something today that is different from yesterday. It’s hard but it’s as simple as it is, before you can walk you need to learn how to crawl.

I have implemented some “rules” in my life to overcome my imprinted patterns and habits and I´d like to share those with you guys. We need to want the change as much as we need to breathe to be outstanding, and we need to be willing to let go of things, “in this life you only get as much as you are willing to let go of” as Osho writes. I do notice many changes in my own life as an entrepreneur, it’s baby steps but in someways it feels like quantum leaps. Things starts to turn over night and I feel like a new person in many ways.

So here’s the 10 things to become outstanding 🙂

  1. Express yourself. Be who you are and don’t apologize for yourself, life doesn’t go on repeat and it’s no time to live someone else’s life. Be unique and do your thing, haters will always hate but the one’s who loves you gonna love you anyway.
  2. Self love. Not in an egocentric way, but in a healthy way. You know, you’re gonna live with yourself for the rest of the time on this planet.. It’s not going to be a pleasant journey if you can’t stand yourself. Be humble and forgiving and tap your own back if no one else’s around.
  3. Change routines. Instead of reacting on situations, try to stop and ask yourself “is this helping me” or “does this matter in a period of 5-10 years”? If not, let it pass.
  4.  Be the master of the mind. Instead of letting feelings and thoughts decide whether it’s a good or bad thing you’re going through, be objective. In many situations we do seem to have our lives on autopilot, instead be aware and be awake. Honestly, how many times have you missed an opportunity just because you were close minded? I sure have lost the counting of mine. The thing is, life isn’t black or white it’s a broad spectra in between, so be alert.
  5. Spread the LOVE. It’s easy to go all in to something we’re passionate about and in all the creativity lose track on what’s most important in life, family. Money can buy us happiness in some ways but not family, I talked to a girl the other day about how’s it been growing up in a family with two parents working in the self employee sector and they were never present. She’s now in her own business and swore to never spend that much time at work, to stake the family. And don´t forget to praise the people around you, see something good, tell it.
  6. Be patient. Let it take time, have trust in the moment. we’re exactly where we’re ment to be. If we rush forward without right tools there’s most likely certain to fail. At the same time we need to be persistent and determined to become outstanding and successful, and don’t stop the drilling before we’ve reached the gold.
  7. Master your fears. I know I’ve written about this in another post (here). But it can’t be said enough times, kill the comfort zone. All our fears and implemented believes are only weighing us down and keeps us clinging to the past. I use to locate the fear in my body, where it is and if it’s physical, then I think of this bright, strong and white light burning the feeling of fear away. The power of thought is amazing, cause it works at 99% of the time, though I might need to redo it the next time I get in a similar situation. Be creative and see how it works for you.
  8. Forgiveness. Forgive and forget, we don’t need to walk around on this planet and think of how other people done us wrong in the past. In this way we miss out on things in the present moment. I have added this to my Book of Miracles as it’s so important to let go of things in order to start each day anew.
  9. Be passionate and keep on learning. To be passionate about what we’re doing and have our why held high in our heart is important, because the minute the passion and the why fades that’s when we loose track in our businesses. To do what we love, read books/articles/blogs, see movies and learn more about what interests us is one of the most important tings to keep the geist alive.
  10. I’m responsible. It’s easy to fall into a pattern of self pity and to blame someone else for our own mistakes. We need to wake up and realize that we and not they are the one’s who’s gonna make a change in this world, society, business and in this life. If I don’t show up at work on Monday morning or the rest of the days I can’t blame anyone else for not being paid.

And do remember failure and mistakes are blessings in disguise.

Wish you a fabulous week!

XoX

Marica

Breakdown, rise and breakthrough eventually

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“There are things you have to do, even if it is dangerous. Otherwise you are not a human being, but a little dirt.”

Astrid Lindgren

The Brothers Lionheart

By this quote I mean that the danger’s not fatal in a way that life ends in a physical way, more like a physiological danger to end up being a zombie or a machine in the society’s wheel of life.

Let me explain; we are brought up by our parents, who in my case are babyboomers from the 40’s, who believes in societies that’s taking care of their working people. You grow up and you go to school where you get thought to be a good employee in a company that will provide you with social security’s like medical care through life and pension when you’ve worked for a lifetime. But this isn’t likely to happen to anyone in my age (+30), because there’s no money in the systems left.

There is a new era now, the schools should teach us how to be good with money and how to make money work for us and not the other way around as it is today. The world needs leaders and entrepreneurs who can create jobs and businesses so that we all can provide ourselves. I know there’s always going to be two kinds of people, the leaders and the followers and that is perfectly ok! But as it is today we are all educated to be followers and not to think outside the box for answers.

I have this in mind as I’ve decided to be my own lucky star and go after the life I always dreamt of and envisioned in my head over the years. I need to put myself out in the danger zone and think for myself and to be creative about my life. To be an employee all my life isn’t an option because that is what I think is a zombie way of life; eat, sleep work and repeat. For goodness sake don’t “dream your life, live your dream!”

Do you believe you’re a machine? That your thoughts and gut feeling is something to just ignore? Here in Sweden there are statistics saying that approximately 32 000 people are at sick leave every year and 200 people dies from stress disorders yearly,  we are 10 000 000 people in this country which makes the numbers fairly high, I think. Sadly I know at least 4-5 people in my circle of friends that has or had some stress disorders.

Still many people think it’s better and more secure to be working for others and trading time for money, thinking it’s too risky and a too high price to pay being a self employee.  Why not try out something new? Something that eventually gives you more time freedom and allow you to work from wherever you’re located in the world.

I’m not saying it’s a piece of cake to start your own business; it’s going to take much time and persistence in the beginning. But as fortunate, the most mistakes have already been made by others in this business. You don’t have to reinvent the wheel, find a good system and get a good training in a good team. I have found this and I feel like I’m in good company with likeminded people who praise each other and shares experiences.

If you feel like it, join me in my facebook group and we can discuss this topic further.

Have a great week everyone!

XoX

Marica

Some stay some goes, change is the only thing constant

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A few weeks ago I finished my E-book “The Power of Downscaling” and I promise that things happen in one’s life when using the steps. Last time I did a cleanup in my stuff was 2012 (writes about it in the book) and then we moved to a caravan.

After this, my husband and I gathered new things every now and then, like furniture to a larger accommodation and things to our baby. It is natural, but now it’s time again to cleanse.

However, I could not believe that it would be as it has become, but it is ok and I get stronger and stronger every day.

We have cleared things out since the beginning of January, given away to friends and family and sold some valuables and now the last goes to charity. During this time, I have changed from the inside out not only by this process, but with the help of the people I’ve met in the program I’m involved in and all the training in personal development I received. I have learned a lot, and got a completely different view of how to live life to the fullest and that I control my life by my way to relate to things, it’s all about mindset and to be the master of feelings and thoughts.

I had anticipated that people around me would note this change and that some would question or even dissociate, and I was right. In a perfect world we could see the similarities in each other and in each other’s way of life, instead of focusing on the differences and to let fears control us. Fear can have many guises, which says it only wants your best, the one that says it does it out of love and those who do not veil themselves at all without the anger and recriminations. Love for me, if it comes to a partner, friend or a neighbor is faith, trust and consideration. If I put myself first, does not mean I do not love or care about others.

Some relationships are not meant to be for life, some relationships have a purpose to teach us something about ourselves. I have learned self worth, enough is enough. I accept that not everyone shares my point of view but I want to be shown respect and acceptance for what I believe in, if you do not give me that respect, but believe they have the right to suppress me and manipulate me then you are wrong. I am my own critic, and nowadays my own critic is very loving and understanding and that is how I want it to be.

We need to make love not war, we need to see each other and understand that we are more alike than the differences we have. I challenge myself when I am moving in the community to meet the gaze of the people I meet, I get a little sad when I realize that I find it difficult. But I do it and you know, for every person I meet, it becomes a little easier. The smile I give will receive a response and a cheering. This is what I want to develop more of with myself, to grow in the encounter with other people and I also want to convey to others. I want to create my best life and I want to help others to create the best life they can get, with abundance, love and prosperity on all levels of life.

I’ve realized that if you close one door a new one will open…

Love to you all,

Marica

P.s If you are curious about: ”The Power of Downscaling” and would like a copy, please join my Facebook group. Link is up above 🙂 D.s