Sad news, letting go and heal yourself… 

 The mind told me not to write a post this evening but the heart knows it makes me feel good to share my thoughts. So I sit here in the sofa with my cup of cinnamon tea and just let the fingers write about any subjects eager to get out in text, as usual.

Today I’m in to self pity, I woke up with a sore throat and a headache which has been my companions for all day now.

It’s been a shaky week since I last posted, with a lot of feelings and emotions going up and down. I got the message that a dear friend of mine suddenly passed away, which caused me to think of what I am doing with my own life, it is a precious thing.

The trip this weekend back to the places where I spent much time in my childhood and have called home for many years made me realize that both places and people changes, and in my innocence this have never crossed my mind. I mean these places could never stop being “home”. Not for a single moment I believed this could happen, but as I walked the streets it struck me as a bullet. This place mean nothing to me anymore, it has nothing but memories of the past to offer.

This place were important to me in the past and the memories will always be in close reach. I think what I’m trying to explain is that I have changed way more than I even knew myself for the last year.

This is a new thing to me, I have kept the belief that some people and places never change, and if everything in the world goes wrong then this is the place for me to hide and seek comfort. It was a bit of a chock when the falsehood of this belief tumbled down and hit me in the head. It’s a good thing though, it’s time to let the past go and to live with less baggage, to travel light.

The lesson to be learned I think, is to never take people for granted and know when to let go of both people and places.

Of course I keep some of these people from the past that I now bid farewell, in my life and give them new roles to play and to have smaller or bigger parts of my heart to keep. And if there is people who still want to be a part of my life it’s partly up to them. I have found the key to self respect and self love and I will keep to my mission, always to do what gives me and my family the most joy out of life and I wish to have that kind of energy in my friendships and relationships with relatives as well.

Life is to short to be lived with second thoughts, or in relations that don’t bring happiness and joy. The tears are only an extension of the laughter and vice versa. Sadly one of my favorite human beings with that kind of energy that could light up a room, were in a hurry to get out of here too early. I will always love you my friend and your place in my heart isn’t vacant.

I would like to recommend a book, a “must read” if you think life is a lesson to be learned. I got this from a new  friend that I met on the internet, that has come to mean a lot to me. Thank you Laura, I’m sure angels comes in many shapes.

I’ve only read till chapter four and I have smiled through tears already, it’s amazing and gives you some insights about the most important person in your life, you. Read it, and if you can’t get a copy of it get back to me and I’ll help you.

The gateways to wisdom and knowledge are always open

-Louise L Hay

Marica 

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10 things to be outstanding

In order to become the persons we want to be we need to understand that we must do something today that is different from yesterday. It’s hard but it’s as simple as it is, before you can walk you need to learn how to crawl.

I have implemented some “rules” in my life to overcome my imprinted patterns and habits and I´d like to share those with you guys. We need to want the change as much as we need to breathe to be outstanding, and we need to be willing to let go of things, “in this life you only get as much as you are willing to let go of” as Osho writes. I do notice many changes in my own life as an entrepreneur, it’s baby steps but in someways it feels like quantum leaps. Things starts to turn over night and I feel like a new person in many ways.

So here’s the 10 things to become outstanding 🙂

  1. Express yourself. Be who you are and don’t apologize for yourself, life doesn’t go on repeat and it’s no time to live someone else’s life. Be unique and do your thing, haters will always hate but the one’s who loves you gonna love you anyway.
  2. Self love. Not in an egocentric way, but in a healthy way. You know, you’re gonna live with yourself for the rest of the time on this planet.. It’s not going to be a pleasant journey if you can’t stand yourself. Be humble and forgiving and tap your own back if no one else’s around.
  3. Change routines. Instead of reacting on situations, try to stop and ask yourself “is this helping me” or “does this matter in a period of 5-10 years”? If not, let it pass.
  4.  Be the master of the mind. Instead of letting feelings and thoughts decide whether it’s a good or bad thing you’re going through, be objective. In many situations we do seem to have our lives on autopilot, instead be aware and be awake. Honestly, how many times have you missed an opportunity just because you were close minded? I sure have lost the counting of mine. The thing is, life isn’t black or white it’s a broad spectra in between, so be alert.
  5. Spread the LOVE. It’s easy to go all in to something we’re passionate about and in all the creativity lose track on what’s most important in life, family. Money can buy us happiness in some ways but not family, I talked to a girl the other day about how’s it been growing up in a family with two parents working in the self employee sector and they were never present. She’s now in her own business and swore to never spend that much time at work, to stake the family. And don´t forget to praise the people around you, see something good, tell it.
  6. Be patient. Let it take time, have trust in the moment. we’re exactly where we’re ment to be. If we rush forward without right tools there’s most likely certain to fail. At the same time we need to be persistent and determined to become outstanding and successful, and don’t stop the drilling before we’ve reached the gold.
  7. Master your fears. I know I’ve written about this in another post (here). But it can’t be said enough times, kill the comfort zone. All our fears and implemented believes are only weighing us down and keeps us clinging to the past. I use to locate the fear in my body, where it is and if it’s physical, then I think of this bright, strong and white light burning the feeling of fear away. The power of thought is amazing, cause it works at 99% of the time, though I might need to redo it the next time I get in a similar situation. Be creative and see how it works for you.
  8. Forgiveness. Forgive and forget, we don’t need to walk around on this planet and think of how other people done us wrong in the past. In this way we miss out on things in the present moment. I have added this to my Book of Miracles as it’s so important to let go of things in order to start each day anew.
  9. Be passionate and keep on learning. To be passionate about what we’re doing and have our why held high in our heart is important, because the minute the passion and the why fades that’s when we loose track in our businesses. To do what we love, read books/articles/blogs, see movies and learn more about what interests us is one of the most important tings to keep the geist alive.
  10. I’m responsible. It’s easy to fall into a pattern of self pity and to blame someone else for our own mistakes. We need to wake up and realize that we and not they are the one’s who’s gonna make a change in this world, society, business and in this life. If I don’t show up at work on Monday morning or the rest of the days I can’t blame anyone else for not being paid.

And do remember failure and mistakes are blessings in disguise.

Wish you a fabulous week!

XoX

Marica

Breakdown, rise and breakthrough eventually

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“There are things you have to do, even if it is dangerous. Otherwise you are not a human being, but a little dirt.”

Astrid Lindgren

The Brothers Lionheart

By this quote I mean that the danger’s not fatal in a way that life ends in a physical way, more like a physiological danger to end up being a zombie or a machine in the society’s wheel of life.

Let me explain; we are brought up by our parents, who in my case are babyboomers from the 40’s, who believes in societies that’s taking care of their working people. You grow up and you go to school where you get thought to be a good employee in a company that will provide you with social security’s like medical care through life and pension when you’ve worked for a lifetime. But this isn’t likely to happen to anyone in my age (+30), because there’s no money in the systems left.

There is a new era now, the schools should teach us how to be good with money and how to make money work for us and not the other way around as it is today. The world needs leaders and entrepreneurs who can create jobs and businesses so that we all can provide ourselves. I know there’s always going to be two kinds of people, the leaders and the followers and that is perfectly ok! But as it is today we are all educated to be followers and not to think outside the box for answers.

I have this in mind as I’ve decided to be my own lucky star and go after the life I always dreamt of and envisioned in my head over the years. I need to put myself out in the danger zone and think for myself and to be creative about my life. To be an employee all my life isn’t an option because that is what I think is a zombie way of life; eat, sleep work and repeat. For goodness sake don’t “dream your life, live your dream!”

Do you believe you’re a machine? That your thoughts and gut feeling is something to just ignore? Here in Sweden there are statistics saying that approximately 32 000 people are at sick leave every year and 200 people dies from stress disorders yearly,  we are 10 000 000 people in this country which makes the numbers fairly high, I think. Sadly I know at least 4-5 people in my circle of friends that has or had some stress disorders.

Still many people think it’s better and more secure to be working for others and trading time for money, thinking it’s too risky and a too high price to pay being a self employee.  Why not try out something new? Something that eventually gives you more time freedom and allow you to work from wherever you’re located in the world.

I’m not saying it’s a piece of cake to start your own business; it’s going to take much time and persistence in the beginning. But as fortunate, the most mistakes have already been made by others in this business. You don’t have to reinvent the wheel, find a good system and get a good training in a good team. I have found this and I feel like I’m in good company with likeminded people who praise each other and shares experiences.

If you feel like it, join me in my facebook group and we can discuss this topic further.

Have a great week everyone!

XoX

Marica

Some stay some goes, change is the only thing constant

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A few weeks ago I finished my E-book “The Power of Downscaling” and I promise that things happen in one’s life when using the steps. Last time I did a cleanup in my stuff was 2012 (writes about it in the book) and then we moved to a caravan.

After this, my husband and I gathered new things every now and then, like furniture to a larger accommodation and things to our baby. It is natural, but now it’s time again to cleanse.

However, I could not believe that it would be as it has become, but it is ok and I get stronger and stronger every day.

We have cleared things out since the beginning of January, given away to friends and family and sold some valuables and now the last goes to charity. During this time, I have changed from the inside out not only by this process, but with the help of the people I’ve met in the program I’m involved in and all the training in personal development I received. I have learned a lot, and got a completely different view of how to live life to the fullest and that I control my life by my way to relate to things, it’s all about mindset and to be the master of feelings and thoughts.

I had anticipated that people around me would note this change and that some would question or even dissociate, and I was right. In a perfect world we could see the similarities in each other and in each other’s way of life, instead of focusing on the differences and to let fears control us. Fear can have many guises, which says it only wants your best, the one that says it does it out of love and those who do not veil themselves at all without the anger and recriminations. Love for me, if it comes to a partner, friend or a neighbor is faith, trust and consideration. If I put myself first, does not mean I do not love or care about others.

Some relationships are not meant to be for life, some relationships have a purpose to teach us something about ourselves. I have learned self worth, enough is enough. I accept that not everyone shares my point of view but I want to be shown respect and acceptance for what I believe in, if you do not give me that respect, but believe they have the right to suppress me and manipulate me then you are wrong. I am my own critic, and nowadays my own critic is very loving and understanding and that is how I want it to be.

We need to make love not war, we need to see each other and understand that we are more alike than the differences we have. I challenge myself when I am moving in the community to meet the gaze of the people I meet, I get a little sad when I realize that I find it difficult. But I do it and you know, for every person I meet, it becomes a little easier. The smile I give will receive a response and a cheering. This is what I want to develop more of with myself, to grow in the encounter with other people and I also want to convey to others. I want to create my best life and I want to help others to create the best life they can get, with abundance, love and prosperity on all levels of life.

I’ve realized that if you close one door a new one will open…

Love to you all,

Marica

P.s If you are curious about: ”The Power of Downscaling” and would like a copy, please join my Facebook group. Link is up above 🙂 D.s